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Sam and I are not together anymore. I need to prove myself as a husband who is willing to put family and my wife first, and to be genuine about it. This is sort of strange, but not unpredictable timing..
The main point of this post is how frustrated, angry, sad, and annoyed I am with the state of mind people are in today. If anything gets at all difficult, just quit! Marriage not going the way you like it? Divorce! That job getting to you? Quit! That class too hard? Drop! Just like that. And most folks in my experience don't at least openly discount these options.
This comes largely in the wake of my Anger Management counselor's techniques. Whenever someone presents a scenario, the discussion inevitably leads back to: "and remember, if things are too hard to handle, the best option is to just walk away." Now... this makes sense in the case of fights because it is better to walk away and cool off than to let things get physical or to say things you don't really mean. Just be careful not to let it turn into a regular thing as an avoidance tactic.
HOWEVER, the counselor answers this to anything. I asked a question about my boss who was having a rough day. I asked how to handle a situation where you don't seem to have control even though you are SUPPOSED to have it. (My boss was having a bad day because no one seemed to listen to his rules, though it's in his JOB DESCRIPTION to enforce them). He gave the same answer: "if the stress is too much, then maybe he should consider getting a different job."
I'm not normally one to curse, but, "FUCK YOU!" NO, I DON'T WANT TO QUIT EVERYTHING THAT'S DIFFICULT! I DON'T WANT TO GIVE UP BECAUSE EVERYONE SAYS IT'S OKAY TO! AND OTHER PEOPLE SHOULDN'T EITHER!
Quitting is usually the easy road. It's the reason why marriage has declined in meaning, why holding down a job doesn't mean much anymore, why school is nothing to take seriously. While this isn't aimed as an attack on friends, I know people who have switched WHOLE MAJORS in order to avoid one or two classes. WHAT THE HELL!?
A lot of this frustration comes from me being in a position where "just quitting" looks almost appetizing. I have more on my plate than I have before, and I still need to go above and beyond (see Above). So I realize a lot of this animosity has to do with "jealousy." I don't think that takes anything at all away from my point though. Nearly everyone looks for convenience and comfort, and the world suffers because of it. I have no doubt in my mind of this. That was a slight vent..
Boat Song lyrics
Gary Jules
Boy when out on a boat tonight
Waiting on his lover
Seen his mermaid bride in the moonlight
And the arms of another
She said "standing on the water is easier to do
Then to try and be a family living here with you
And the more I've been thinking
The more I know I'm living alone
Now they see him out on the waterways
Rolling on the foam
Only memory for a future
Only ocean for a home
'Cause Amelia's the name that she calls herself these days
And "birds! birds!" is all we heard before she flew away
And the more I've been thinking
The more I know I'm living alone
The main point of this post is how frustrated, angry, sad, and annoyed I am with the state of mind people are in today. If anything gets at all difficult, just quit! Marriage not going the way you like it? Divorce! That job getting to you? Quit! That class too hard? Drop! Just like that. And most folks in my experience don't at least openly discount these options.
This comes largely in the wake of my Anger Management counselor's techniques. Whenever someone presents a scenario, the discussion inevitably leads back to: "and remember, if things are too hard to handle, the best option is to just walk away." Now... this makes sense in the case of fights because it is better to walk away and cool off than to let things get physical or to say things you don't really mean. Just be careful not to let it turn into a regular thing as an avoidance tactic.
HOWEVER, the counselor answers this to anything. I asked a question about my boss who was having a rough day. I asked how to handle a situation where you don't seem to have control even though you are SUPPOSED to have it. (My boss was having a bad day because no one seemed to listen to his rules, though it's in his JOB DESCRIPTION to enforce them). He gave the same answer: "if the stress is too much, then maybe he should consider getting a different job."
I'm not normally one to curse, but, "FUCK YOU!" NO, I DON'T WANT TO QUIT EVERYTHING THAT'S DIFFICULT! I DON'T WANT TO GIVE UP BECAUSE EVERYONE SAYS IT'S OKAY TO! AND OTHER PEOPLE SHOULDN'T EITHER!
Quitting is usually the easy road. It's the reason why marriage has declined in meaning, why holding down a job doesn't mean much anymore, why school is nothing to take seriously. While this isn't aimed as an attack on friends, I know people who have switched WHOLE MAJORS in order to avoid one or two classes. WHAT THE HELL!?
A lot of this frustration comes from me being in a position where "just quitting" looks almost appetizing. I have more on my plate than I have before, and I still need to go above and beyond (see Above). So I realize a lot of this animosity has to do with "jealousy." I don't think that takes anything at all away from my point though. Nearly everyone looks for convenience and comfort, and the world suffers because of it. I have no doubt in my mind of this. That was a slight vent..
Boat Song lyrics
Gary Jules
Boy when out on a boat tonight
Waiting on his lover
Seen his mermaid bride in the moonlight
And the arms of another
She said "standing on the water is easier to do
Then to try and be a family living here with you
And the more I've been thinking
The more I know I'm living alone
Now they see him out on the waterways
Rolling on the foam
Only memory for a future
Only ocean for a home
'Cause Amelia's the name that she calls herself these days
And "birds! birds!" is all we heard before she flew away
And the more I've been thinking
The more I know I'm living alone
